This strategy might feel like catharsis—venting every detail of your frustrations and pain. You might think, “If I just let them know how miserable I feel, they’ll finally get it!” But dumping your emotions on your partner doesn’t create connection. In fact, it often leaves them feeling attacked and defensive.

Relationships can feel like a rollercoaster sometimes — thrilling highs and gut-wrenching lows. But what if some of the turbulence in your love life isn’t about your partner or the situation at hand? What if it’s your nervous system running the show?

Most traditional therapy approaches couples from a neutral stance, meaning both partners are treated as equally responsible for the problems in the relationship. On the surface, this sounds fair, but what happens when one partner’s actions hold significantly more weight in the dynamic?

W.H. Auden's words, "I will love my crooked neighbour with my crooked heart,"reminds us of the beauty in embracing the messy, imperfect, and deeply human aspects of ourselves and those we love. This lesson has been personal for me . . .

If you’ve ever felt like you and your partner are stuck in a never-ending dance of push and pull, you’re not alone. Many couples get caught in patterns where one partner pursues and the other withdraws. What’s driving this cycle?

Have you ever felt stuck in a cycle of conflict, disconnection, or misunderstanding with your partner? You’re not alone. The truth is, unresolved childhood trauma can have a profound impact on marriage. The good news?

Does this sound familiar? Has your partner ever said, “It feels like you don’t care how I feel”? In this blog post, I’ll teach you a simple, 4-step skill to repair and reconnect after conflict (aka rupture and repair).

Most people never learned how to process anger and shame in a healthy way. We didn't learn it at school, home or in our family units so it comes out in toxic ways in our relationships, culture or gets trapped in our bodies and creates chronic illness.