Ever feel like you're having the same fight over and over with your partner? Or maybe you avoid conflict altogether, but deep down, you feel stuck or disconnected. It turns out your nervous system may be playing a much bigger role in your relationship dynamics than you realize.

Gaslighting, often described as a form of emotional manipulation where someone makes another person doubt their reality, is typically a fight response in disguise.

A few generations back, my ancestors lived in small, rural villages in Western Africa. They were part of tightly woven communities where the rhythms of life were guided by spirit, nature, elders, and collective care

Do you ever feel like your partner’s behaviours hit a nerve, reminding you of a wound from your childhood? Maybe their habit of shutting down triggers that familiar pang of loneliness. Or their tendency to dismiss your feelings feels eerily similar to something your parent did.

Transformation doesn’t require giant leaps—just small, consistent steps. And as you implement these strategies, watch how your relationship begins to shift toward deeper connection and harmony.

Have you ever wondered why certain conflicts with your partner seem to come out of nowhere? Why a seemingly small disagreement can spiral into something much bigger? The answer often lies in your inner child

This strategy might feel like catharsis—venting every detail of your frustrations and pain. You might think, “If I just let them know how miserable I feel, they’ll finally get it!” But dumping your emotions on your partner doesn’t create connection. In fact, it often leaves them feeling attacked and defensive.

Relationships can feel like a rollercoaster sometimes — thrilling highs and gut-wrenching lows. But what if some of the turbulence in your love life isn’t about your partner or the situation at hand? What if it’s your nervous system running the show?