Most people never learned how to process anger and shame in a healthy way. We didn't learn it at school, home or in our family units so it comes out in toxic ways in our relationships, culture or gets trapped in our bodies and creates chronic illness.

My biggest pet peeve is hearing people say ‘just listen to your body’. If the attachment system was disrupted and if there’s been exposure to trauma our ability to listen to our bodies cueing will be off. But here are some simple ways to reconnect with yourself.

A huge part of healing from the toxic affects of past trauma is learning how to trust yourself and trust others. If we don't have trust, we have nothing. If we don't have trustworthy people in our life it can become unstable and unpleasant.

There's this myth that woman are the only people pleasers on earth. Men simply benefit from women being people pleasers for centuries but this is simply not true. We cannot give credit to just one gender. In my experience men are secretly on the same boat!