Do you ever feel like your partner’s behaviours hit a nerve, reminding you of a wound from your childhood? Maybe their habit of shutting down triggers that familiar pang of loneliness. Or their tendency to dismiss your feelings feels eerily similar to something your parent did.

Signs your fear paralysis reflex may be unintegrated as an adult — chronic anxiety. A baseline feeling of fear or worry that doesn’t seem to subside, even when things are going well.

Transformation doesn’t require giant leaps—just small, consistent steps. And as you implement these strategies, watch how your relationship begins to shift toward deeper connection and harmony.

Have you ever wondered why certain conflicts with your partner seem to come out of nowhere? Why a seemingly small disagreement can spiral into something much bigger? The answer often lies in your inner child

This strategy might feel like catharsis—venting every detail of your frustrations and pain. You might think, “If I just let them know how miserable I feel, they’ll finally get it!” But dumping your emotions on your partner doesn’t create connection. In fact, it often leaves them feeling attacked and defensive.

Relationships can feel like a rollercoaster sometimes — thrilling highs and gut-wrenching lows. But what if some of the turbulence in your love life isn’t about your partner or the situation at hand? What if it’s your nervous system running the show?

Most traditional therapy approaches couples from a neutral stance, meaning both partners are treated as equally responsible for the problems in the relationship. On the surface, this sounds fair, but what happens when one partner’s actions hold significantly more weight in the dynamic?

W.H. Auden's words, "I will love my crooked neighbour with my crooked heart,"reminds us of the beauty in embracing the messy, imperfect, and deeply human aspects of ourselves and those we love. This lesson has been personal for me . . .