If you’ve ever felt like you and your partner are stuck in a never-ending dance of push and pull, you’re not alone. Many couples get caught in patterns where one partner pursues and the other withdraws. What’s driving this cycle?

Have you ever felt stuck in a cycle of conflict, disconnection, or misunderstanding with your partner? You’re not alone. The truth is, unresolved childhood trauma can have a profound impact on marriage. The good news?

Does this sound familiar? Has your partner ever said, “It feels like you don’t care how I feel”? In this blog post, I’ll teach you a simple, 4-step skill to repair and reconnect after conflict (aka rupture and repair).

Most people never learned how to process anger and shame in a healthy way. We didn't learn it at school, home or in our family units so it comes out in toxic ways in our relationships, culture or gets trapped in our bodies and creates chronic illness.

My biggest pet peeve is hearing people say ‘just listen to your body’. If the attachment system was disrupted and if there’s been exposure to trauma our ability to listen to our bodies cueing will be off. But here are some simple ways to reconnect with yourself.

A huge part of healing from the toxic affects of past trauma is learning how to trust yourself and trust others. If we don't have trust, we have nothing. If we don't have trustworthy people in our life it can become unstable and unpleasant.

There's this myth that woman are the only people pleasers on earth. Men simply benefit from women being people pleasers for centuries but this is simply not true. We cannot give credit to just one gender. In my experience men are secretly on the same boat!

Most importantly boundaries are about connection and separateness. It allows us to open up and bring things in to share an experience and separate, to have space and define this is me, that i them so that not everything is coming at you and becoming who you are.